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Korean body lines

Korean body lines

“South Korea has been swept up in “alphabetization,” or the grouping of (mostly female) bodies into shapes based on letters from the Roman alphabet. There is the S-line—“ample breasts and buttocks when viewed from the side”—and the X-line—“long legs and arms connected by a narrow waist.” The face of a woman with slim cheeks and a pointed chin follows the V-line. Cleavage is described using a W-, Y-, or V-line.”

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23 Trends Guys Hate (But Women Love)

23 Trends Guys Hate (But Women Love)

Things like this really bother me. Why must women always be pushed to such high standards regarding their appearance in the infinite quest of the male gaze. Why must a woman have to worry or even care about whether personal style can be considered “man repelling”? Honestly, who wives a flying fuck about my personal dress style will land me that male gaze. We dress for ourselves and no other, we wear what we think is a reflection of our personal identity. Why should we change any of that because it might not land us the ultimate prize (according to this article: A man).

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The stereotype of the ‘horrible female boss’ is still a problem

The stereotype of the ‘horrible female boss’ is still a problem

“The good news is that the preference for female bosses is the highest it’s been since Gallup started polling on this question in the 1950s. Back then, only 5% of respondents preferred a female boss, while 66% wanted to work for a man. But while the radical increase of women in the workforce has shifted views, we’re still not living in a society that sees women and men as equally competent, likeable and authoritative. Americans don’t prefer male bosses because men carry some sort of boss-gene on their Y chromosome; Americans prefer male bosses because male authority is respected while female authority is unbecoming, and because the expectations are set so high for women in power that it’s nearly impossible for any mere mortal to meet them.”

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Women Know More than Just Love and Sex

Women Know More than Just Love and Sex

“There is an absolute lack of intersectional thinking, with little attention given to how working-class women, queer and transgender women, or women of color might live their lives when their choices are often constrained in ways the wealthy cannot fathom. Worse, it’s not just one magazine or newspaper that publishes gendered trend journalism, it’s most of them.”

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Losing virginity for good

Losing virginity for good

“The idea of your first penis-in-vagina sexual encounter being something significant and life altering (well, for women anyway) has origins in women being considered property.

That is to say, virginity is a social construction that came about because of the commodification of women.

Since women were (and sometimes still are) considered property, when they got married, they were passed on to their husbands from their fathers. You know the whole father-walks-his-daughter-down-the-aisle tradition? Well, it represents a transfer of property from her father to her husband. Her father was literally giving her away.”

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5 Reasons there aren’t more women in atheism

5 Reasons there aren’t more women in atheism

“Kim Rippere, founder of Secular Woman, explains, ‘The secular community needs to be self-reflective regarding acceptance and inclusion both within our community and in society and the media has to stop ignoring women atheists or it will continue to be difficult for women to emerge as atheist leaders.'”

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On Virginity.

I hate the term virginity as much as I hate misogyny, racism and tomatoes. The fact that for centuries it has been used and continues to be used as a tool for controlling women’s sexuality makes me even more repulsed by it. Being defined as a virgin has different implications for men and women and it’s unfair that women must be burdened to “keep their virginity”, while men have no pressure to keep it or value it. Their self worth and character won’t be up for debate if or when they decide to engage in sexual activity.  But the term alone is damaging to society because the concept of virginity puts unwarranted pressures on women to be submissive and in the case of men it shapes their interactions and relationships with women.  The worst part is that women have internalized this concept and use it to oppress each other.  It is called slut shaming.  Men engage in it as well, but the internalization of “virginity” as a virtue and a defining characteristic by women makes social rejection of this concept greater to achieve when the group being most damaged by it also uses “virginity” as a tool for defining their self worth and as a tool for shaming.  Don’t forget that in some countries women are killed for not “being virgins”because their sexuality represents a family’s honor.

Its time that we start changing the way society treats women’s sexuality. Let’s acknowledge that women like men are sexual beings. Let’s stop valuing women for their willingness to conform to oppressive systems. Let’s stop instilling in women that their sexual inexperience will some how evelvate her status or gain her special privileges.  Let’s stop treating “virginity” or lack there of as a moral issue because it isn’t. Oppressing a group of people to the point that they will be killed for not submitting to another’s will isn’t moral. Oppressing women over something as superficial as “virginity” is not moral. “Virginity” is not real. It was made up to control and suppress women’s sexuality. We need to give that up. “Virginity” is an outdated concept that helps no one. Remaining a “virgin” doesn’t make a woman a better person.  What it does make her is sexually inexperienced and unaware of the joys of sex.  Sex is fun and there is always something new to learn. What’s wrong with enjoying something as natural as sex and admitting to liking it? The answer for women is shame. It’s shameful for women to identify as sexual beings because of the concept of “virginity”. But what social functions does “virginity” fulfill other than the oppression of women?  Let’s cut the bullshit. “Virginity” is nothing more than an outdated concept used to suppress women’s sexuality by attaching honor and virtue to its definition.

Some idiots will say that I just want women to let loose and go on a fucking spree and catch an STI or unwanted pregnancies.  To them I say. Yes! I do want women to let loose. I want them to set themselves free from the constraints brought upon their sexual lives by “virginity”. If they want to go on a fucking spree they should go for it and enjoy themselves. What’s wrong with that? STI’s and unwanted pregnancies you say? We live in the 21st fucking century. If we let go of the immoral and damaging concept of virginity and all the bullshit that is associated with it people in general would be better informed about STI’s and pregnancy prevention and we wouldn’t have to worry about it as much.  Instead of scaring people and teaching them to be ashamed of sexual feelings we should, for the progression of a healthy and accepting society, teach people about the importance of owning their sexuality. Let’s teach our young girls that if they want to engage in sexual activity they should be aware of not only the responsibilities that come with having sex, but the importance of having sex for pleasure and not for the pressure of maintaining certain relationships or for the sole purpose of bearing children.

In conclusion, FUCK “VIRGINITY”!

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Why wouldn’t we? The sad truth about biphobia

Why wouldn’t we? The sad truth about biphobia

“Here’s the sad truth about biphobia: Biphobia is sad. It’s sad to think that there are people out there who don’t believe that love is possible unless it is in these very narrow confines related to gender. It’s sad that these people are walking around with such a dim view of the potential of the human heart. It’s sad that they would rather convince themselves that others are lying than admit that there may be ways to love other than the way they love. It’s sad that they would be so devoted to the primacy of gender as a determining factor of love, of all things, that they would deny the existence of the identity of millions of people.”

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The 21st Century a post feminist world?

It seems to me that a lot of men and women think that we now live in a post feminist America. According to these people, all developed nations are in a post feminist era.  What concerns me about this is that these same people are even willing to make claims about the negative social impacts of feminist principles.  Unfortunately, their beliefs are incredibly wrong, and stem from common misunderstandings, delusions and self-interest, but mostly ignorance.

There is this common misconception, especially amongst Americans, that women in developed nations are equal to men because they go to college, have careers, and run businesses. I hear men and women in the news, media, in school and at the bar talking about how they do not consider themselves feminists, or how we live in a post feminist world.  Some are willing to argue that we should just stop taking about gender inequality and stop blaming white males for whatever is wrong with society because things will eventually fix themselves.  Having to listen to such outrageous claims is really frightening because it demonstrates how much people are detached from reality.  It makes me wonder if they have the faintest clue of what feminism is or what it stands for.  I can assure you that if any of those lovely ladies and gentlemen knew anything about feminism they wouldn’t be so quick to try and detach themselves from this social movement, nor make any of these outrageous claims about a post feminist society.

So what is feminism?

Feminism is the belief that everyone is equal.(Mind blowing stuff.)

Now let’s discuss one of the many reasons why we don’t live in a post feminist world in the year 2013.  (Pretty embarrassing, right?  Now let’s put our embarrassment aside and move along.)

If anyone has been paying attention to current events it is very easy to realize that not only do we not live in a post feminist world, but that for the most part people willing to make claims about developed nations having post feminist societies, and men and women who prefer to not associate themselves with feminism have an incorrect understanding of feminism and women’s struggles.  They fail to understand that to this day women have to defend themselves from all angles.  If it’s not the way we dress, it’s the way we speak, the way we choose to live our lives, the company we keep, the jobs we hold. If we have sex, it’s who we’re having sex with, if we have sex purely for pleasure, how many people we have sex with, if we are employed, if we are unemployed, if we are in charge, if we are not, if we don’t have kids, if we have too many kids, if we choose to marry, who we love, if we are victims, if we are survivors, our reproductive choices, our mothering, our domesticity or lack there of.  All these social criticisms against women confine us, and what is most disturbing is that other women often perpetuate this. What I’m saying is that if we (women) have to live our lives being judged about things like this we most certainly do not live in a post feminist society.

For example, there is this crazy idea circulating around certain circles that men have been severely affected by the successes of women and especially feminism.  They call it “the war on men”.  According to Suzanne Venker, “women aren’t women anymore” and feminism is to blame.  In fact, she claims that the successes of women have changed social relations between the genders for the worst because men cannot cope with modern women’s new roles.  In her opinion, men can only be fulfilled when women exist only to serve them because the minute a woman holds a career, seeks higher education or tries to contribute to their household income something inside men breaks down.  It destroys their interest in marrying because their character cannot handle having women at their side sharing ideas, making constructive decisions and contributing to household incomes.  In fact, in her attempt to misinform people about feminism, and discredit women for wanting to live lives outside of the domestic realm, she paints a pretty grim picture about men today.  She paints them as sexist, emotional wrecks and feeble minded.  Don’t forget Suzane Venker is not a feminist, and she’s the one talking all this shit about men, not me.

Unfortunately, for women, Suzane Venker believes that being ambitious and assertive automatically disqualifies you from womanhood.  Having a career, a job and higher education apparently makes you this angry and defensive being whose only purpose is the destruction of men. Women wanting to be contributing members of society is what’s fucking men up.  Really!  Her delusion has led her to believe that we have time for that kind of shit.  It’s as if she doesn’t know that a lot of working women who have a career are working to support their families.  Some of these women go home and have dinner with their husbands and work to contribute to their household income and alleviate their husbands from the pressures of being the sole providers.  Or maybe she was talking about women like me who work to support themselves.  Beware my male friends, colleagues, relatives and boyfriend.  According to this woman, I am plotting your demise I’m angry and defensive. BEWARE!!!  You know all those good times we had getting drunk together talking shit?  It was all a plot.  A plot to destroy you. Crush your hopes and dreams about ever finding that perfect woman who lives to serve you like a maid would, but with the perk of avoiding sexual harassment lawsuits. Because what’s more attractive than a women vying to tend to your every need, who doesn’t want to think for herself because deep down she knows you are the one who holds all the truths?

The picture that people who share this view paint about men and women is that, well for men, you are all whinny, little beings who haven’t changed your attitudes since the Victorian era, and are having a hard time adjusting.  Because according to this non-feminist, your brains cannot wrap around the idea that women are holding positions of power and having access to things they were once denied access to.  And because you are sexist you are not having any of this so you choose to live alone and not marry.  You poor things living an existence full of fear of accomplished women. You know with your low self-esteem and all.  So miserable because no one is going to be there to bake you cookies when you are sad or in need of some freshly baked cookies made from the tender hands of women who have not been tarnished by the evils of feminism. And for women, you should stay at home, not think for yourselves, reserve your opinions and your sexuality, forget it; good women don’t discuss these things with anyone, especially not their partners.  Even for current homemakers, if you are not being a submissive woman in all aspects of life, it being ideological or sexual you must be an impostor because women cannot form opinions about any matter.

But in all seriousness, the sheer idea that there is this hatred that the modern educated and working woman is perpetuating against men, this whole battle of the sexes thing is ridiculous and most importantly NOT FEMINIST.  Feminism is about equality, and saying that modern women, or unwomen, (because according to Venker we are no longer women) are working very hard to turn men into second class citizens is taking the message of feminism and twisting it to distort real issues.  How hard is it to understand the concept of EQUALITY FOR ALL?  There is no battle of the sexes. Fighting to take the power away from men and using it to set up a society where men are held as second-class citizens goes against the very tenants of feminism. What many people have misinterpreted as feminists’ hatred towards men is the fact that feminists tried to change people’s attitudes towards a more egalitarian world by addressing  the fact that in our society men have more privileges that allows them to have a greater opportunity to hold better jobs, and positions of power in most aspects of life. That is all.  Criticizing the realities about the way our society is structured to give greater opportunities to some more than others, is by no means spreading hatred from one group to the other. Pointing out such truths was meant to raise an alarm and educate minds on how our society can let go of such prejudices and move on to a better paths.  However, some minds cannot comprehend this and misconstrue ideas to spread divisiveness.  They, the non-feminists are the ones promoting the “battle of the sexes” and blaming feminists.  This article serves if only to demonstrate who the people waging cultural wars are.

There is no battle of the sexes being waged by feminists.  There is a battle though. It is one between those who want to see change happen, who want to make the world a better place for everyone who lives here (feminists), and those who have benefited from inequality and are fearful of  living in a world where they have as much as the rest of us. Or how they interpreted ‘live in a world where they lose, everything they have worked to maintain’. This is not a battle where the winner takes all (because that is not feminism). It is a battle with hopes for equality through the employment of truth, logic and reason.  This battle can only be won with when we can change such distortions of reality, misinterpretations and ignorance in this matter. (The matter being Feminism, just in case you missed the point).  The fact that feminism needs defending and articulating, that delusional people get any credibility is but only one indication that we are not living in a post feminist era.

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