Whore Bashing Makes You An Asshole

 

            “What a slut!”, “She’s a whore!”, “Nasty bitch!”, “Dirty bitch”, “Has no respect for herself”.  We have all heard some sort of comments condemning women and young girls for having sex, expressing their sexuality and for dressing and acting in ways that a society can deem inappropriate.  For example, when unmarried and single women engage in non-normative behavior society automatically labels them as ‘sluts’.  Men and women alike engage in whore bashing and unfortunately we might have even sometimes caught ourselves engaging in it.  But why do we do such things?  Why do we feel so compelled to judge someone for enjoying sex? What is it about certain loosely covered female body parts makes people want to shame women? What is the point? Do we benefit from it? What is its intended purpose? I’m only asking because of its common occurrence that MUST STOP.  

            Whore bashing overwhelmingly affects women’s social lives and interactions. As a global community we must understand that engaging in the denigration of another person for being what we all are, sexual beings, is unacceptable.  We should be repulsed by people who do this kind of thing. In fact, we should have zero tolerance for it. Why? Because whore bashing discredits women and depending on where in the world or country they are puts women at risk for assault, sexual harassment, rape, physical abuse, emotional trauma and suicide.  This happens because we have been cursed with the Bronze Age idea that a woman’s sexual inexperience is a social marker of her purity, honor and worth.   This on going idea that has spread like Chlamydia of the throat amongst teenagers, survived thanks to religious, patriarchal and misogynist institutions proposes that women are not allowed to take pleasure in the joys of sex because the minute she does society paints her as some sort of ruined woman.  But why?  Why must we judge and make accusations about a woman’s sexuality or sexual expressions? We gain absolutely nothing from doing it. Well, I guess because we live under such bullshit norms concerning purity and piety, calling someone out for doing what we all enjoy doing might mentally place you in a level under virgin but above whore. And when men do it does it mentally place them under Jesus, but above a woman? It makes no fucking sense to even try and understand or justify why people feel the need to shame women in matters that only concern her. What we should be very aware of is the damage that whore bashing does to women of all ages. Or are we aware of the damage that it causes and we do it because we’re pieces of shit that take some sort of pleasure in fucking with people?           

            Whore bashing affects women’s personal, social and professional lives. Whether we like to admit it or not whore bashing is a disgusting activity with serious consequences. It cripples women’s self esteem. Most importantly, what we as a society must understand is that whore bashing affects all of us.  It breeds groups of men who internalize ideas about male supremacy and women’s subjugation.  It creates a culture of men and women who police women’s sexuality and gives them the impression that the minute a woman or young girls strays from puritanical normative behaviors they are entitled to persecute her without taking into consideration the damage that it can cause.  More over, it creates a society where female sexuality is something shameful and repulsive.  I say this because why else would you shame a women for exposing certain body parts or engaging in sexual behaviors which when men engage in them doesn’t discredit or harm them to the same extent? This is not an exaggeration. How many boys or men have you heard of that had to change schools, change cities, were sexually harassed, raped or committed suicide because their peers were relentlessly whore bashing them? We have cases of girls as young as 14 commit suicide because one time she was pressured by a much older man to send him a picture of her breast, and her peers harassed her until she killed herself. Seriously, over showing her breasts. Instead of the man being persecuted and taunted for forcing a young woman to expose herself against her will the person who suffered the most torment was the young woman.  How about women who have been harassed or raped for wearing too little clothing?  Happens all the time all over the world.     

            If we want the whore bashing to stop we must start from scratch.  All these ideas that we have about women’s sexuality have been very ingrained in us whether we like to admit it or not. I do propose an easier way to stop this. We must learn to mind our own business and admit that we all like to fuck. We all like sex. And when we see a woman wearing very little clothes instead of thinking about hopefully seeing a nip slip and go for a grab, or thinking what a whore she is for wearing that, we should just continue with whatever we were doing and mind our own god damn business because nobody likes that uncomfortable feeling of people staring at them while they walk down the street.  This especially goes to those disgusting men who feel the need to grab a woman’s less covered body parts. Who the fuck do you think you are doing such things? Acting like you grab your mom like that too.  Women don’t go around cupping men’s junk when they wear nut huggers or feel the need to grab a man’s ass if he wears those teeny running shorts. What does this have to do with whore bashing? A person doesn’t need to yell whore to engage in whore bashing. When a man cops a feel he is not using language, but actions to express the fact the he feels entitled to touch her inappropriately because of the way she is dressed or because he heard from his friends that she was, well, a whore.  And that just makes him an asshole.

Let’s stop the whore bashing because it’s degrading.  It also compels people to treat women in ways that they themselves would never like to be treated. Let’s stop pretending that we are all self-respecting individuals who never transgress social norms, especially not the ones that have to do with sex.  Let’s stop pretending that whore bashing is harmless.  Let’s mind our own god damn business and teach our family members and friends that that shit isn’t cool.  Let’s tech them that if they have nothing nice to say about a woman who engages in similar sexual behavior as men to STFU. And let’s teach men that it is not okay to go and cop a feel. It’s not funny, and that woman is surely not going to want go back to your place after that.  She’s not going to feel flattered by a man who unsuspectingly grabs her.  I’ m serious. Let’s cut this shit out.  Needlessly hurting others for the sake of maintaining patriarchy and misogyny alive is a global social problem that hurts our development as caring empathetic individuals and harms women in unimaginable ways.  It keeps breeding disgusting men who intentionally hurt women, and perpetuates the endless cycle of the denigration of women for not acting by old puritanical rules regarding their sexuality and expression. 

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2 thoughts on “Whore Bashing Makes You An Asshole

  1. Marloes says:

    It always surprises me that when a woman discovers het sexuality, she immediatly is a whore or slut. When a man does, he’s at most a player. Like that’s accepted. It’s ridiculous. Why should we always judge anybody but ourselfs?

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